Why you don't love yourself... No one is perfect, some of us are less perfect than others ( at-least that's what we like to think ) , we all experience insecurities, this could maybe be your looks, physique, maybe it's how you act or maybe it's where you're at in your career, or you don't like the environment you are in, the are many factors that can cause unhappiness within yourself. When you don't like yourself, you constantly pick on those things that you don't like, always criticizing yourself, comparing yourself to other people, holding yourself down.It's really hard to love yourself, You need to understand that you can love yourself, you can be happy with who you are even if you have imperfections. The problem is that we tend to focus more on the things we don't like about our-self, constantly staring at your imperfections and hating yourself even more. Realize that you have a choice on what you focus on, you can change the things that you don't like about yourself ( example going to the gym), or you accept yourself the way you are and know that you can be happy and satisfied with any imperfections you may have. Journey to loving yourself You have to start loving yourself unconditionally, no matter how you look, what you did, what you think, you still love you & you are the greatest person on earth, because you are all you got at the end of the day. Look at yourself in the mirror, look at every aspect of yourself, don't judge yourself, and tell yourself " i love you the way you are " .. say it to yourself as many times as you can in a day and really believe it. You might find that this will be really difficult to do, because you are so used to constantly looking at yourself & telling yourself negative thoughts, hating yourself , breaking yourself down, you don't even realize that you are your own enemy. And to really love yourself, the negative thoughts need to stop. You have to accept yourself, accept that this is who you are, and the is no one like you, you are unique and you are good enough. To love yourself does not happen overnight, its a life journey, accept yourself "now" and keep developing yourself everyday. Social Media : One way to love yourself, is stop comparing yourself to other people especially from social media,stop looking at what they got,if you want something but cant afford it, that should be a motivator for you to work hard and be able to buy for yourself. Keep in mind that not everything is as it seems,photos can lie. Don't let yourself think your not beautiful or worth it based of how many likes/followers you have compared to your friend or celebrity. Make-Up: Having a flawless beat face is now a trend, and I personally have nothing against makeup. But I have noticed that people get used to makeup so much, that they don't feel beautiful without it,they wont leave the house without makeup, and this is so wrong. You shouldn't depend so much on something to make you feel confident/ beautiful, If you feel beautiful & confident with makeup, you should feel just as much without makeup. You should always love yourself no matter whether you have makeup or not. Natural Hair : Natural hair is now in trend, and instead of ladies empowering and loving each others natural hair, it somehow became a competition. It seems like only certain type of natural hair is considered beautiful. & this can cause ladies that don't have that type of natural hair to feel insecure, but you shouldn't. Don't compare your hair to someone else or think their hair is better than yours. & we should all praise all kinds of hair, straight hair is just as beautiful as natural curly, wavy & kinky hair. Remember that very hair texture is beautiful and you should embrace and love what you have. My final advice for you.. I have so much i want to write about this topic, but if i had to write all my thoughts, I would write an entire book. :) Focus on the positive aspects in your life, enjoy the little things and please don't compare yourself to anyone else. I know its hard especial with society, but you have control over your life, no one can force you to do anything & once you have control over yourself no body can bring you down. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself, stop creating a certain ideal of what being happy is, we tend to think having certain brands, perfect selfies or having cool friends is what is going to make you happy but this will cause pressure and stress on yourself. You should take care of yourself, for you and nobody else. Eat healthy, wear what you want to wear, enjoy the hobbies you like, do little things that make you feel free and happy. & know you are not in competition with anyone, don't compare your chapter 1 with someone Else's chapter 10. Remember that being happy is so much easy, focus on the good things you have and do the things that really makes you happy. Be grateful for what you have. "The journey of self love, is not just about appearance, it's about loving who you are, the real you and believing in yourself so that you are confident and strong and no one can bring you down." P.S I wanted to share some beautiful photos of this lovely, beautiful , amazing ladies. I wish i could share more photos.
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